2026-05-31: Some Progress
Hey everyone.
I've reduced my drinking dramatically!
I have a friend who is helping me through planned reduction, and executing on that plan.
At the beginning of the year, I was around 40 standard drinks per week.
(I was well over one hundred per week in 2025. 2025 was the hardest year of my life, and I did not cope well.)
But this week, I had 20 drinks!
My goal for this quarter was to get under 24 drinks per week.
I'm a month ahead of schedule. :)
Slowly reducing doesn't work for everyone, but it's working for me.
I hope you're doing OK.
Drinking ain't worth it, man.
I won't be drinking today. I hope you won't either.
-unc
2026-03-24: Quick One
Hey everyone.
Frankly, I need to post today to resist the urge to drink, haha.
So this quick post is just for me. :)
If it helps you, though, great!
Join me!
I won't be drinking today. I hope you won't either.
-unc
2026-03-05: Despair
Hey everyone.
Despair is kinda funny.
I just sent one of my friends the following text:
"I am a small, fearful man that has let the world win. I'm just cowering until I die eventually."
How dramatic!
Such big feelings!
Sometimes people feel this way.
I am curious where these despairing thoughts come from.
Do I really think this about myself?
Sometimes, I guess, but it's broadly untrue.
I wouldn't be here if I didn't think there was any purpose to it.
Documenting my struggles, my triumphs, my deepest thoughts...
It's comforting.
Already, people have signed the guestbook.
Already, we know there are others like us.
Thinking what we think.
Feeling what we feel.
You're not alone.
Even though we may never meet, we are fighting alongside you.
Even though we may never see each other's faces, we can help each other.
I won't be drinking today. I hope you won't either.
-unc
2026-02-23: Fear
Hey everyone.
Isn't it scary?
Isn't it scary to not know what to say?
To not know, when something is hurting you, how to get it to stop?
It sucks.
Especially when what's hurting you...
Is yourself.
The fear of knowing that, because of your decisions, you're bringing yourself closer to...
The other shoe dropping.
It's a heavy feeling.
But all we can do is our best.
Bravery requires fear's presence.
Accomplishment requires doing something difficult.
And luckily, while we're on this side of the sod...
All of us...
All of us have the ability to do difficult things.
I won't be drinking today. I hope you won't either.
-unc
2026-02-10: Struggles
Hey everyone.
It's been a brutal month.
I made it to day 18 before relapsing, and, well...
We all know how tough it is to climb back out of that hole.
And if you don't know how tough it is, I hope you never have to.
I've done my best to limit the damage - buying less boozy alcohol, taking days off in between drinking...
... but it's well past time to get back on the wagon.
My liver aches.
My kidneys ache.
I don't wanna feel like this anymore...
And there's only one way that happens.
I've found one thing that has a 100 percent success rate at stopping my drinking...
And it's the days I make these posts.
So I might be posting more often.
They might not be the most profound posts.
They might not be for anyone except me.
But, as they say, "if it's stupid and it works, it ain't stupid."
And, here we go... the magical phrase...!
I won't be drinking today. I hope you won't either.
-unc
2026-01-14: Sadness
Hey everyone.
Day 14!
There's a meme I think of often when I'm on a good sober streak.
A dog is drinking a cup of coffee while his house burns down around him.
He thinks, "This is fine."
In the next panel, he's outside.
Flowers are blooming, birds are singing, and there's a rainbow overhead.
He thinks, "This is unbearable."
Sometimes, in my most optimistic thoughts, I think that sobriety will make my problems go away.
It doesn't.
And that sucks.
It's easy to wish to be somewhere else, to float above the clouds and leave your worries far below.
We can't do that.
But when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
Day 14 isn't much. It's also an eternity. It's also 14 more days than I had 14 days ago.
14 days of sadness is a lot better than 14 days of despair.
I won't be drinking today. I hope you won't either.
-unc
2026-01-10: Comfort
Hey everyone.
Day 10!
There's a saying I've heard a lot as a male in his mid-thirties:
"Be comfortable being uncomfortable."
I've always thought this was weird.
Comfort feels good! I like it!
But I think I understand a little more now.
For me, "comfort" was sliding back into old thought patterns. Into old actions.
It doesn't mean you need to be an ascetic, raking yourself over the coals over and over.
It means that change is uncomfortable.
And when you know you have to change, it sucks.
But staying put is no longer an option.
Stay physically comfortable. Create an environment that allows you to grow.
There's a reason they're called "growing pains," but "be comfortable being uncomfortable" doesn't mean "make it harder than it has to be."
Just the opposite, in fact.
I won't be drinking today. I hope you won't either.
-unc
2026-01-06: Withdrawal
Hey everyone.
Happy New Year!
I hope you're all doing well.
I haven't drank since the new year began.
Someone reminded me that, despite the withdrawal symptoms being gone, it doesn't mean your body is done craving alcohol.
I feel good about not drinking. It makes me feel like I've kicked the habit.
But it's not a one-and-done thing.
We gotta wake up every single day and slay this dragon.
I won't be drinking today. I hope you won't either.
-unc
2025-12-16: Relapse
Hey everyone.
I'm still in what they call "active addiction."
I'll get a few days or a few weeks into a sobriety streak, then slip up.
It sucks.
I know that the path of sobriety will make my life so much better.
And yet, my addiction flips a switch, and I auto-pilot back to drinking.
But I know I'm not alone, and I know I have people rooting for me.
Please know, if you're going through something similar... you're not alone.
I'm rooting for you.
I won't be drinking today. I hope you won't either.
-unc
2025-12-14: Welcome
Hey everyone.
You can call me unc.
I'm in my mid-thirties, not sure when that happened, lol.
All of a sudden, I woke up dissatisfied with my life.
There's plenty of things I like about my life - I have a roof over my head, food on the table, a steady job.
But I feel like I'm throwing it all away.
I have my health... for now. But I'm sedentary, I'm an alcoholic, and I know that one day, the other shoe is gonna drop unless I make a change.
I put so much pressure on myself, to mold myself into what I think people think they want out of me.
I need a place to be myself, without pressure. I need to speak frankly, honestly, and anonymously about my problems.
This is that place.
I hope this site will resonate with someone, and maybe even get someone to stop drinking.
I won't be drinking today. I hope you won't either.
-unc